Del - why do some guys pay for dinner and drinks on a date with a girl? Should I do the same?
Expressions of affection for someone else should be genuine; genuine behavior contains the charisma of truth. Unfortunately, all too often, a guy may buy dinner for a girl as a way to win her admiration; he may think it demonstrates class, wealth or a gentlemanly nature. The tradition of the male paying for a meal originates from when men had greater purchasing power than women. This pragmatism being generally less relevant today, the place of purchasing dinner today is mainly to show affection to someone.
In most first date scenarios you barely know a girl, and buying dinner would be inappropriate. Cooking dinner may be better - or simply buying a drink, ice cream or a coffee (which can be passed as social politeness).
Note that this advice would be completely inapplicable to relationships.
<3 Del
Expressions of affection for someone else should be genuine; genuine behavior contains the charisma of truth. Unfortunately, all too often, a guy may buy dinner for a girl as a way to win her admiration; he may think it demonstrates class, wealth or a gentlemanly nature. The tradition of the male paying for a meal originates from when men had greater purchasing power than women. This pragmatism being generally less relevant today, the place of purchasing dinner today is mainly to show affection to someone.
In most first date scenarios you barely know a girl, and buying dinner would be inappropriate. Cooking dinner may be better - or simply buying a drink, ice cream or a coffee (which can be passed as social politeness).
Note that this advice would be completely inapplicable to relationships.
<3 Del
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